Even though my male colleagues know I’m a Christian, they still joke with me about f**king girls. When I tell them I’ve met a girl I like, they might say “does she take it up the ass?” Or, “have you railed her yet?”
I’d never heard that before.
I don’t think they are being malicious, I just don’t think they understand what it means to be a Christian.
I daren’t tell them I’ve been celibate for 17 years. It would be around the staffroom in no time, and I’d be good for gossip. I’m sure I already am. If only they knew the deeper stuff.
Some things need to be kept secret.
But back to my work colleagues. As you know, I go out to the nightclubs, and if I see my work colleagues out, and they see me with a girl, they might say: “Have fun with her tonight.”
I really don’t want to explain that I’m there to help the girls, to introduce them to NGOs – because it sounds pretentious.
But back to the office. Even though I’ve said I’m a Christian, they seem to still want to tell me their stories of their previous night’s conquests, in detail.
I went for a coffee with a colleague and he said things like “when you’re getting a blow job…”
It is really difficult being a single male Christian in a secular environment.
Do I just have to come out with it? “Look, I’m celibate. I don’t take girls home. I don’t have sex. And, no, I’m not gay.”
The fact is, I want to keep the friends I’m making at work. But the whole ‘I don’t have sex’ thing is just weird to them, and I feel like I’m the joke of the staffroom.
Being a Christian in a secular environment is so difficult.
Especially being single.
I did meet a girl I like recently. Maybe she’s the one.
When I told a colleague and said no, I hadn’t had sex with her, he said “I’d have f**ked her by now.”
So, you see?
It is impossibly difficult being a single male Christian in a secular environment.
Have you got any advice for how to deal with it?